It's human nature to want to be accepted. It’s also human nature to want to get a leg up on competition, and turn your weakness into strength. People who lack physical strength will shun physical fights and attempt to undermine the importance of strength in the minds of others, while simultaneously stressing the importance and superiority of intellectual strength. This is natural. I believe some people are hardwired this way. Once people perceive what you feel is a weakness as a strength you become king or queen.
This illustrates a sluts long journey to freedom. We see the push for sluts to not be looked down upon by branding it as “sexually liberated” and labeling people as “slut shaming” for not accepting it. Every attempt is made to change the minds of others. A slut will fight hard to get you to accept sluts. Anything other than acceptance will result in them being looked over when being picked for a long-term relationship…. So this group looks to minimize, in their minds and in the minds of others, the negative stigma that comes with being a slut.
The argument is always made and question always asked “why do men get to have sex with multiple woman and get praised but when a woman does it she is shamed and called a hoe”? This begs another question, Why do women want to do something that requires no effort on their part? The average man and the average woman are very different in their access to the opposite sex. An average woman can get dick from damn near any man she chooses, if she has herself slightly together. An average man has to apply some level of game, and generally have himself together to gain access. Are you going give someone who’s 7 feet tall a bunch of praise for being able to dunk a ball? No, but we will look in amazement when a smaller guy does. Likewise, you don’t get praise for doing something that literally comes very easy to you, like stuffing balls. You also don’t get to avoid the social stigma. THE BEST SLUTTING IS PRIVATE SLUTTING. IF YOU CHOOSE TO WEAR IT ON YOUR SLEEVE ACCEPT WHAT COMES WITH IT.
Tyrese caught hell for saying women should value themselves. Tyrese underestimates how bad hoes want to be hoes without being labeled a hoe. I say, let them hoe and slut it up in peace. This is all fine, but you can’t do the work and escape the societal stigma that comes with it. If you sell drugs and someone calls you a drug dealer, how can you get mad at them for observing it and calling it what it is? How can you be offended by that, but not by your own actions. If that drug dealer is proud of what he/she does no one can make them feel shame. However, if someone can make them feel shame then they must know on some level that what they are doing is shameful. The problem is a lack of accountability. People want to be accepted for any and everything they do without consequence, but the world doesn’t work that way.
I’m all for you being a slut, be the biggest slut you can be. But don’t mask it and try to shame a person into accepting it. That’s like reverse slut shaming or some shit (not serious, but kind of). There’s plenty of men who don’t care one bit that you’ve been stuffed like a build-a-bear with 100 different dicks. They don’t care that you’ve felt every man you’ve come across was worthy of having you in your most physically vulnerable position. They don’t care that your mentality is such that you feel it’s perfectly fine to let random, multiple, short-term men literally enter and exit you like an emergency staircase. They’ll love you anyway. If a slut can find acceptance outside of the normal “only good for sex” box she has traditionally been put in, her power automatically increases and she has more options. With options come power. She can be taken home to meet the family whereas before she was kept at a distance. And we see more of that acceptance now. Some sluts are winning.